Fucking good read

The truth about lying and laughing

This is good stuff dammit. I was searching on the subject of why people laugh at others' misfortune/misery, and somehow this came up. I'm super interested in the subject of lying, because people seem to think others are liars but at the same time, most people suck at detecting lies. (I know it, because I'm the subject of suspicion more than half the time and they don't get it right.)

Anyway, an interesting read:
Synesthesia

Links 4

Empathicperspectives
HSPs and Emotional Contagion
HSP and Empath
Empath Traits
Empath Guide
7 Signs You're an Empath

Psychological Manipulation Something to read
Altruism
Altruism Part 2
Book of Storms
Psi-Zone

Okay no idea which links are overlapping. Just pasting:
Empath Solutions
Empath - Pagan and Proud of it - black bkgrd white text
Signs that you're an Empath
Difficulties of an Empath
Who is An Empath

The Yes Men

My new topic of interest.

Wikipedia
Yes Men Offer Plenty of Problems, No Solutions
Beware of the yes-man
Your Idea Is Brilliant

I need to think about this.

Oh yay...! I just hijacked my own blog entry.

Daring to tell the truth
Very useful insight.

How to Be Kind
I like this...well, except maybe the parts I can't really do. Haha.

Is Anger Good or Bad for Self Esteem?

Links 3

How to ask for what you want
Smart questions - I have no clue what this is
Things you should never say in an interview Ooo.

Neil Gaiman - where to get ideas
Get ideas for a story
Types of characters

Tiny Wisdom on Feeling Good
How to deal with uncomfortable feelings
6 ways to protect yourself from overload
Obligation and Choice

Self Disclosure - Hmm interesting
Effect of Anonymity - good read
Self-disclosure communication

ENFJs get used a lot?

The Psychology of Cypersbace - The online disinhibition effect
Boundaries


Socionics - Enneagram Tritype Description

Enneagram Blog type 6 - Hmm how did I manage to miss this...


Attention Seeking Behavior
Attention Seeking - Forum Discussion
Attention Seeking methods

Don't cheapen yourself
Cheapening people

Gossip - Not Christian myself, but decent read
Seeing the good in others

Links 2

Handling Fear of Rejection
AskMen.com - Fear of Rejection
Fear of Rejection

Interesting read...

Why Nerds Are Unpopular - Very, very good read

Elbert Hubbard - Nice quotes
7 keys to listening - Gotta read it some time...

Ni-Ti Loop - part 1
Ni-Ti Loop - part 2

Links

Rage
Self Hate
Psychopathy
Probing inappropriate rage

? Irrational Rage?
Understanding Anger
The National - Irrational Rage

Health - Why do I get so angry - Very helpful link
Health - Handling stress Good article
Irrational rage - Someone's blog
Controlling Anger
Intermittent Anger Disorder - Informative
Extension of previous article

Bystander Effect
Pluralistic ignorance, social proof, diffusion of responsibility

Unspoken Illness in China

Badmouthing

Searching the links to read, early in a morning I have things to do. Ugh, what's wrong with me sometimes.

Parenting? o.o
Some random blogger's thoughts
How to stop badmouthing people
Utilitarian vs Moralist Arguments

How human personality is formed

Most of the articles above...were crap. This one seems like a good read: Managing organizational deviance.

I've been wondering:
1. What gossiping is
2. The effects of gossiping
3. What badmouthing is
2. The effects of gossiping

It is rather annoying but there are no real good articles about these subjects. For some reason, as a kid, I had a better grasp and understanding of the negative human nature, the motivations and all that, but as I grew older, I feel like I've stopped understanding those and now, I feel so crippled.

Sometimes, it feels as if adults can't understand shit for nuts without a bunch of theories, a bunch of hearsay, PhDs, specializations, biology, blablabla etc. Not that it's true for all people. It's hard to determine and understand what each person needs, to figure out and understand the next human being - if it ever ends up as part of their life goals.

Also very irritating is how it seems that people cannot discern the difference between fact and opinion.

This is purely ironic in nature. View it as satire if you will. But here's something I've been reading and observing since I first came to know a piece of addictive junk called Teenage Magazines, especially the "looking for friends" and "leave a message" sections (and...no, I don't actively collect or buy them; I no longer remember how and why I read those things):

"I'm looking for good, kind and honest people. I hate immoral, rude, conceited, condescending, selfish and dishonest people. I hate hypocrites, liars, posers yadayada. I also hate those types who think they're so good at everything. I hate..."

My response: In other words, you're looking for the perfect person...who somehow exists, right? It's as if people go around looking for friends like they're looking for products or something.

It's surprising, but at least 70~80% of the things written when people want to make friends look like that. Yet we happen to know that 70~80% of the people we "judge" are "those kind of people we really hate" and "the majority who are stupid."

OH LOOK. Yay to tangent thinking! Found an interesting post.

Hypocritical Humor - One of my favourite sites even though I haven't gotten down to reading everything at all =p. Points out really weird things.

Reading Links 2

Ten Mysteries of You
Self Understanding
Four Rules to Understand People - Very good article
People who break boundaries - Wondering if I do
Boundary article - Fully agreed
Personal boundaries - Very interesting article, except I don't understand the example used; seems a tad bit trivial if you ask me
Boundaries are not walls - To think about
Thinking for yourself - Hmm, I see something that paints me as a jerk...interesting

Under stress
Experience blog entries
INTJ vs Psychopath
INTJ lousy time management - Lol...who knew
Introverted children - this started to look like bullshit at some point...
Types under stress

Special Snowflakes in WoW - LOL. I like to read what gamers have to say about human nature.

Archetypes - Horrendous format

Subtypes

Enneagram Links

http://pstypes.blogspot.com/2009/11/enneagram-tritype-descriptions-type.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tritype
http://www.enneagram.net/products.html

http://www.enneagram.net/instsub.html#PairBonding

http://9types.com/epd/5.php

http://www.enneagram.com/enneagram_type3.html

The Fun of Substitution

My life isn't all bleak, dreary and depressing. It's quite dry at times, and happy at others.

So here's a blog entry from someone else that made me laugh, because it makes so much sense.

Reading Links

Introverted Articles
Avoidant Personality
?? Don't know what's this, haven't read

Difference between thoughts and feelings
Fixing hurt feelings
Sensitive Feelings
Hurt

Dealing with Emotions
Signs of Insecurity
Validation

4 Types of Stupidity
Basic Laws of Human Stupidity

Missing

Initially, reading up and learning more about myself was a revelatory experience, but now it leaves me wondering about a lot of things.

I still don't know how I can trust myself, or trust anyone, in the matters of relationships and connections.

You're here today... You could be gone, tomorrow.

I don't know how to be honest about my feelings, because I don't even know what they are. I feel, and like every person out there, I don't wish for them to be judged.

I wish I were more aware of myself in the past. I would be able to salvage the past, stop the damage and not cause so much of the misunderstandings that served as nothing more than petty dramas.

Above all, I regret I was unable to communicate how important people around me were, more than they ever cared to know.

It's like, today, I still hope for a validation that it was alright to have been whom I was in the past.

When is a good time to move on?

As always, the world moves on, time passes and everything is constantly falling into the past. There is rarely a time to stop and lament, and if I don't pull myself along, I won't know if I can get out of this.

Do some of you still miss me? Because sometimes, I do.

I haven't cried for a long time over this, but right now, I just feel like it.