Monday, October 10, 2011

Badmouthing

Searching the links to read, early in a morning I have things to do. Ugh, what's wrong with me sometimes.

Parenting? o.o
Some random blogger's thoughts
How to stop badmouthing people
Utilitarian vs Moralist Arguments

How human personality is formed

Most of the articles above...were crap. This one seems like a good read: Managing organizational deviance.

I've been wondering:
1. What gossiping is
2. The effects of gossiping
3. What badmouthing is
2. The effects of gossiping

It is rather annoying but there are no real good articles about these subjects. For some reason, as a kid, I had a better grasp and understanding of the negative human nature, the motivations and all that, but as I grew older, I feel like I've stopped understanding those and now, I feel so crippled.

Sometimes, it feels as if adults can't understand shit for nuts without a bunch of theories, a bunch of hearsay, PhDs, specializations, biology, blablabla etc. Not that it's true for all people. It's hard to determine and understand what each person needs, to figure out and understand the next human being - if it ever ends up as part of their life goals.

Also very irritating is how it seems that people cannot discern the difference between fact and opinion.

This is purely ironic in nature. View it as satire if you will. But here's something I've been reading and observing since I first came to know a piece of addictive junk called Teenage Magazines, especially the "looking for friends" and "leave a message" sections (and...no, I don't actively collect or buy them; I no longer remember how and why I read those things):

"I'm looking for good, kind and honest people. I hate immoral, rude, conceited, condescending, selfish and dishonest people. I hate hypocrites, liars, posers yadayada. I also hate those types who think they're so good at everything. I hate..."

My response: In other words, you're looking for the perfect person...who somehow exists, right? It's as if people go around looking for friends like they're looking for products or something.

It's surprising, but at least 70~80% of the things written when people want to make friends look like that. Yet we happen to know that 70~80% of the people we "judge" are "those kind of people we really hate" and "the majority who are stupid."

OH LOOK. Yay to tangent thinking! Found an interesting post.

Hypocritical Humor - One of my favourite sites even though I haven't gotten down to reading everything at all =p. Points out really weird things.